something to ponder

lets take a look on a few things regarding relationships:

We all deserve to be happy. Most of us want to be happy in healthy and loving relationships. What makes relationships healthy? They have six basic qualities —

• respect
• trust
• honesty
• fairness
• equality
• good communication

Healthy relationships help us feel better about ourselves and about our place in the world. They make us feel safe. Unhealthy relationships make us feel unsafe.

Respect

Without respect, relationships can be hurtful. Many of us think it takes a slap or a punch to hurt someone. But insults and unkind words hurt just as much. They can destroy our self-esteem — how we feel about ourselves.

Trust

Without trust, relationships can cause jealousy and unhappiness. Jealous partners doubt the other's love or commitment. Building trust — by talking, listening, being honest, respecting each other's feelings, and having fun together — is the best cure for jealousy.

Honesty and Fairness

Without honesty and fairness, relationships can be hurt by lies and anger. No one is always right — or wrong. In healthy relationships, partners admit their mistakes and can expect forgiveness.

Equality

Without equality, unhappiness is likely as one partner takes control. In healthy relationships, neither partner is "in charge."

Good Communication

Without good communication, there are a lot of misunderstandings. In healthy relationships, partners are open and listen to each other.

Love and Anger

Love shouldn't hurt. In happy and healthy relationships, partners try not to hurt each other. It's true that we all get angry sometimes. But when we do get angry, we have a choice — we can express ourselves in a healthy way, or we can do it in an unhealthy way and hurt someone else.

Remember: You and your partner always have choices — even when angry.

With reference to: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/sexual-health/sexual-health-relationship/is-this-love.htm